I ordered this online when I arrived back from travelling over 14 bloody months ago – but never had the guts to actually wear it out because I thought I was a bit too podgy for a slim fitting skirt. What the actual F is that about? Turns out it makes a cute work outfit and works on a night out too. NO SHIT. I purchased it for that reason, tried it on and was happy enough to keep it wasn’t I? Don’t let your lovely clothes that bring you happiness gather cobwebs in your wardrobe! Dig them out and start flaunting them asap!
It’s so sad that we’re made to think that we’re only worthy of wearing certain things if we’re a certain weight, size or shape. Turns out that we can wear whatever we want, whenever we bloody well like to suit whatever mood we’re in. For years I thought I couldn’t wear skirts or dresses above the knee. Now I couldn’t give a shit. My main rule for trying on clothes and outfits is, ‘do I feel happy in this?’ Whereas before, I’d be asking myself ‘what will people think if I rock up in this?’, ‘will I get stared at?’. This may all seem so trivial and shallow, but I’m 99% sure everyone has gone through a similar thought process when getting ready at some point in their life. You worry how you’ll be perceived by other people which is completely natural. But as you get older and and more accepting of who you are, your style evolves and you start to give less of a crap about what others think. And it’s a great feeling!
You, and you alone, know what makes you feel good, what colours you love and what cuts make you feel confident. So wear your choices with pride. Don’t overthink it. The more you own your outfit choices, the better you’ll feel.
The same goes for hoarding clothes from yesteryear or buying a pair of jeans with the hope of ‘slimming into them’ at some point. For me, I’ve never reached that point. I’m a UK size 12-14, very different from the size 10 shape I was sporting in my teen years because – NEWSFLASH – I grew up and became a woman! I gained weight that went to my hips, thighs, tits and arse. I went through that thing called ‘ageing’ where you body changes and adapts to what point you’re at in your life. So those size 10 jeans from sixth form will not get around my thighs anymore. But that’s COMPLETELY FINE! 🙂 Did you read my post about why your weight doesn’t determine your worth? If not, you totally should! The number on the scale and in your clothes label doesn’t represent anything. It’s not a representation of how worthy you are in society. My clothes size varies from shop to shop. Sometimes I’m a ‘small’ in one thing, and a ‘large’ in another. You can still have an awesome career, plenty of friends, loads of love and heaps of fun regardless of whether you’re a size 8 or a size 16. Once you start questioning and picking apart the fads and fixes that the diet industry says we ‘need’, you’ll begin to realise that you’re amazing as you are, can wear what you like, weigh what you like and go be the damn boss of your life.
If you have something you bought but haven’t had the guts to wear yet hanging up in your wardrobe, go get it out and wear it this week! If you have a pair of jeans from when you were younger or bought to try motivate you to lose the pounds, fucking ditch ’em.
Love to you all and all your awesome outfit choices,